“Is it so bad, then, to be misunderstood? Pythagoras was misunderstood, and Socrates, and Jesus, and Luther, and Copernicus, and Galileo, and Newton, and every pure and wise spirit that ever took flesh. To be great is to be misunderstood.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson, Self Reliance
Relationships! Great teachers! That quote always helps me to feel better at times when I feel mis-judged or mis-understood. I wanted to blog a bit about it and hope in doing so that it helps others who come across this problem themselves. This may be a more common experience among fringe dwellers and those are the type to come across a blog such as this.
Anyway, do we subconsciously ask for these judgments and or set ourselves up for the opinionated wrath of others? I don’t think so. Perhaps a tarot card can help us out here so I pulled one. And by the way what I’ve observed is that those who point the finger at fringe dwellers are those that fear being on the fringe themselves and as so often happens we project our fears onto others.
So the cards we have here to help us understand these types of experiences are one major and one minor arcana card — namely, The Fool and the 3 of Pentacles.
The Fool has no home, no destination, with no possessions. I have to laugh a bit at the cosmic joke here–currently I am without a home that is my own (I share an apartment) and essentially live in one bedroom. I don’t know where I am going to be going (on various waiting lists currently) and well, this last part is partly true. Most of my possessions are in storage and they’re not much at that–I’ve probably paid more in storage rent than the stuff is actually worth! In that way this card describes my life right now–thus, the cosmic joke. But getting back to the point now….
The Fool is fed by what Zen folks would call THE TAO, or the Great Mother or The Divine Intelligence. And I think this is what fringe dwellers who are mis-understood should remember. It’s important.
Others (the one’s who mis-calculate our life and our reasoning and our behaviors) are mere reflections of energy that we sometimes cast in more important roles than they deserve. What I mean there is that we put people in a role many times and then we expect certain behaviors or perhaps a particular loyalty or some such attribute. And then of course, they let us down. People most all of the time do not live up to the expectations we have of the roles that we assign to them in our minds.
And that is a 2-way street of course. It’s the reason we feel misunderstood at the same time the other mis-judges.
The thing is that it is we who are judging our own self, isn’t it? We judge ourselves for not being part of the pack and then we see that reflection.
It is okay not to be part of the pack and this is why I like the quote from Emerson on self-reliance. it is reliance on THE TAO or the GREAT MOTHER or reliance on the DIVINE INTELLIGENCE or DIVINE LOVE.
Not being part of the pack and feeling the pack turn against us (no matter how it comes about–i.e. reflection or not) is helpful in that it turns us back within toward that energy as described–the Divine Love.
Many times we want others to give us that respect, that love and to provide that sense of ‘belonging’ for us that we can only give to ourselves. it is like turning ourselves inside out to find all of that within. We fringe dwellers have done that over and over again, many times. it is part of being on the fringe; only old souls or experienced souls seem to be capable of handling it. I see that observing others who seem to be like myself–that’s why I say so. Reflections? Maybe, but I do observe and correlate and we do carry the collective unconscious within us.
The tarot card of The Fool is all about learning from experience and and knowing that he is one with All That Is–so why worry? The Fool is comfortable being alone and without attachment because of the inner knowledge that there is never any separation whatsoever and as in the the movie, The Matrix when the young adept says, “There is no spoon”, it is the same way with The Fool. Even if there is a fall, even if it hurts a bit, it is just part of the Divine Matrix, an grand illusion.
We are sustained by Life Itself after all and not by the others–they only play out a role of our own making to help us see the truth… there is no spoon, no fringe, no dweller and no others, not ultimately. Conventionally we have to acknowledge the existence of others, the pack, and the world of matter, but ultimately, “there is no spoon”.
It is a gift really to be mis-judged and mis-understood because it is at those times we are being assisted or reminded of ultimate reality. It is not denial, it is enlightenment at least in the moment of the recalled realization.
I love being a psychic and in touch with various forms of divination and the tools of the trade.
PS— i nearly forgot about the 3 of pentacles but then again writing this blog post as I feel misunderstood today is an example of that card’s meaning. I often think of this card as doing work.
Planting seeds, GETTING REAL and that’s writing this blog post today is about for me. Applying your craft.
Many spokes attach to the hub but it is the empty center that turns the wheel, they say. Emptiness has potential–that is associated with the 3 of pentacles as well.
The 3 of pentacles as a person is one who is highly skilled and has deep feelings. This card reminds us to apply our craft, our art to any perceived problem or concern in life.