Personal Tarot Traits – Relating Personal Daily Experiences to a Daily Tarot Card
If I’ve read it once, it’s been the same number of times that match the number of tarot books on my shelf. Most all authors mention pulling a card a day to learn about the cards. The other morning during my usual wake up routine (no longer hit the floor running like in the good ole’ days) when I let guidance come in and do a waking dream for the day ahead… well, there was a directive in the form of an idea laced with intensity. Draw a card at the beginning of the day and reflect on its meaning and then revisit the day-card combo at day’s end. That’s the treasure at the end of the rainbow so-to-speak. It gives insight into the that world of divination for adding layers or additional traits applying meanings and deeper understanding to the cards, all of which can be drawn from those layers when doing future readings.
Let your personal life teach you the cards! So that’s what this post is all about.
I have three days /slash/ tarot cards to begin this journey with. Will I be able to make posts like this daily or regularly? (my inner question as I type) The answer: time will tell. But no time like the present as they say so let’s get going with what we’ve already got!
May 13, 2015: Judgment
The highlight of that day that relates to this card is one in which I assumed how something in my life would likely play out and I was wrong. One could say “judged” wrongly how something would likely turn out. It regarded a work out and if you are someone who regularly exercises, you know how this goes. There are times when you feel like you maybe shouldn’t work out–you feel tired or think that you will not do very well. But you drag yourself to the gym anyway or if you are a runner/jogger, you lace up your shoes and head out the door anyhow. Right? And then it turns out that you end up having the best workout than you’ve had in months! That’s my personal tarot trait for the Judgment Card. This card is about being “called” to “restructure” the “self”.And it was a day when several personal best were achieved with my exercise goals when beforehand I almost skipped the gym because I thought I was too tired. The end of a plateau was reached and everything got kicked up a few notches. Next time I draw this card in a reading, I will consider this experience in my card interpretation.
May 14, 2015: King of Cups
The highlight of that day was my musically inclined grandson! This card does often represent a male energy and also water or emotion. One divinatory meaning relates to a fondness for the arts! My grandson sings in the honors choir, sings on stage in high school plays, plays saxophone in the marching band and that night was featured in an oboe solo (an oboe which he taught himself how to play by the way). It was the day of the in the spring concert on May 14, 2015. I will think of a sensitive and artistic male and my grandson anytime I pull this card in the future. The concern in which he played a solo oboe part was a huge highlight of that day! The King of Cups represents ambitious male energy and this another quality of my grandson.
May 15, 2015: 7 of Cups
On this day—a pleasant surprise occurred as highlight of the day! My daughter tied up a loose end for me. She cleaned out the remaining items of my storage unit, moving them into her own which we planned to share. She saved me the efforts which was such a nice thing for her to do for me–an unexpected pleasantry! Whenever I see this card, the first thought is this: anything is possible. The 7 of cups also relates to the truth that the outer world is a reflection of the inner world. I’d had cleaning out that storage unit and getting my stuff into hers for recent days and then it gets done and I didn’t lift a finger while I did imagine or visualize it. I will be sure to add “things that come unexpectedly” as a trait for this card next time it comes up in a reading. My daughter was a the gym and I was on my way there when she called and said, “I have a gift for you on the front seat of my car.” And when I saw the lock to my unit there, I knew exactly what she had done!
Carl Jung said that as humans our greatest challenge is to break away from the herd
Boundaries. Those lines we draw around ourselves to maintain balance and to protect our psyche from invasion. Yes, or maybe ‘intrusion’ is a gentler word.
The push of energy that comes from the behavior and the demands of others requires a boundary. That boundary keeps us from being used or manipulated by others and within that boundary we can express our true nature. Personal boundaries allow us to be in the driver’s seat of our own lives.
Without healthy boundaries we sometimes give up a part of our self to be available or accommodating in a way that enables others and causes a loss of self-respect.
We can become so entangled with another person and their needs (co-dependent behavior) that we lose your own identity. This undermines our integrity and leads to a loss of self-respect — and the respect of others around you.
Respecting boundaries. I asked my self today if I honor other people’s boundaries. Do I push myself on others? When I get a hint that a person does not wish to socialize with me, do I continue to insist that they do so? And do I solicit others in passive-aggressive ways to elicit sympathy from others using them to assist me to push boundaries even further?
Sounds like a little bit like the animal–the bull, doesn’t it. But you know how some people keep on antagonizing the other, right? I have a visual. Someone who is like a bull and charges upon others. Wave that red flag in my face one more time and I may, do like the bull, and charge! 🙂
Do people have a fundamental right to set limits and expectations in their life without incurring the judgment of others? I think they do. You know that saying, “You can’t really understand another person’s experience until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes.“–??
Can people consider the wishes of others yet still make choices regarding personal boundaries?
People are the way they are. Can we accept that without judging them, trying to manipulate or change them?
I operate from my own truth. You do too. And when we respect other people’s truths, we expect our own truths to be respected in return.
Manipulative people do not understand boundaries. They force themselves into the space of other people’s lives.
Where’s the compassion? Fear is the root of it all, you know? The boundary pushing person has a fear of not being loved, not being good enough, deserving enough. Okay, that’s understood. So then what? Do we let the person keep pushing or what?
Compassion for the boundary pusher and for the one with the boundaries ( both ) is what’s needed here. There is the defensiveness from the one with the boundaries who says, “See what I see, hear what I hear, feel what I feel and then maybe you will understand.” And the other one, in the meanwhile, of course still pushes– the habit of fear being the driving motivation.
“You couldn’t handle half of what I’ve dealt with and don’t understand that there’s a reason that I do what I do”, says the one who has been willing to accept responsibility for their own life and who has developed the self-respect which created the boundary. Victim talk?
Personal boundaries are more than OK–and it doesn’t mean that you are selfish or unkind if you push back when someone pushes yours. Boundaries mean that you have a clear picture of who you are and how you want to live.
In a family dynamic it is always more difficult or better said–complex. Sometimes we have to endure a person for the sake of keeping the relatives happy, right? Or do we? Do we enable dysfunctional behaviors in family members? Or don’t we?
The “herd mystique” and it’s allure
There is a quote from Carl Jung about this being one of the human’s greatest challenges. Fitting in with the group, the herd, the clan–“You are family so you HAVE TO be around me!” Where is that written? Genetic connection or NOT; do we vote with our presence indicating that dysfunctional behavior is acceptable?
On another note, is it our responsibility to straighten other people out in ways that we believe they should ‘act’ according to our own standards of behavior? Whoa! Now that’s one huge judgment if we believe that. Where’s THAT truth? Speak it. Does that sound right if you say it aloud? Best not to push your truth onto others or become a evangelist — that’s a karma creator if there ever was one.
By placing a boundary and living within it, you are living your own truth and being compassionate to yourself and to the other as well. You are also teaching people in your life what self-respect looks like through example.
We have to trust what we know and what we have learned from the work that we have done in our own life via self-analysis, theology, philosophy and spirituality.
This is especially true if we speak about times when our boundaries are pushed and disrespected, especially in a family situation. Those are the most charged with the opportunity for growth and for teaching through example.
People who push boundaries are giving you the opportunity to develop or to teach self-respect. Pushing back is a delicate art. Knowing how to push back against pushy people takes stamina and skill. (Personally, some days I feel too old for it quite honestly.)
Anyway, push-back involves maintaining your own autonomy and self-esteem when you are being invaded. You know that you need to step back and protect yourself, while minimizing any hostility or confrontation. Not easy. People are going to be offended. Sometimes I think pushy people know that and it makes them push all the more–or they enjoy the drama.
People who push boundaries are acting out of fear and desperately trying to fulfill their own needs. Social self-reliance is not really their forte’, their strong suit yet; they’re working on it. We’re all a work in progress.
Self-care means recognizing the importance of your feelings and honoring them and when you set boundaries, this is what you are doing. It’s important.
But we’re “All One”–right?
We’re all one and connected and while this is true, and while we can be compassionate and understanding as we see the ‘bigger picture’ with self and others, we still have to be able to function here and in order to do so we must stay emotionally healthy while maintaining boundaries… all the while doing the relationship dance. Being human isn’t easy.
Being human isn’t easy and being the best human you can be… well, it’s tricky sometimes.
I think the best thing we can do is get out of the judgment with the whole business with boundaries and relationships and being social. I think Jung was right about the “herd mystique”– our greatest challenge being to break away from the herd.
To fully “individuate” is to be able to stop trying to “fit in” and to be comfortable living in your own truth. Separating one’s self from those to whom one does not feel an authentic connection takes courage. The wrath of the clan falls upon you sometimes; that comes along with the territory of being your own person.
There is perceived safety in numbers which is an illusion just as much as any other erroneous belief we hold about living in this dimension. Some people, and maybe I’m one, feel more authentic outside of the herd. Strong boundaries are needed and when threatened, need re-enforcing. Should that be a surprise?
What about karma?
Karma. It’s our intention that creates it. I think that needs to be said as well. To have a boundary does not carry ill intent.
No man is an island onto himself, it is said. We are one; yet, it is ego that separates us or gives a unique history of experiences and thus identity.
Judgment also separates us– i.e. “…you are different” or “… you should behave toward me in one way or another”. It all gets us to work on our human growth and evolution both individually and collectively.
But in the meanwhile, as we do all of that, I like the blackbird way of interacting with their fellow birds. If a bird lands on a nearby branch and is not the mate of that blackbird they do a little nod (a bow) and fly away. Blackbirds are pretty solitary. They are known to establish their territory, fiercely defending it (boundaries) by driving off any of their kind that get close to their vicinity. Boundaries and blackbirds seem to go together.
What’s the bottom line? The ending conclusion? The final thought? The summary? The point? The meaning? I don’t know. I just do hope something here helps someone out in cyber-world as I worked through some thoughts about boundaries today.
Here’s an article about emotional manipulation that I came across shortly after writing the blog above. Some may find this helpful:
You could, if you wanted to, observe a good deal by observing any group of people—either in person—or on the Internet in any of those group settings and those observations would give you a fairly good feel for that person’s INNER TRUTH which is being projected outwardly. The heart’s feelings and wisdom (or lack thereof) will eventually make itself known to the careful observer—it is about consciousness. And it is amazing to see it in action. It also helps me realize my own which is why we are here with each other, I suppose, rather than wing it completely alone. Yet, we’re still alone even in a group of other consciousness’es in bodies or in twitter land or other internet gathering places.
If you think about it, the Internet is a perfect example of how it REALLY ‘is’. What I mean is there you are on your computer, alone on your keyboard; yet, in some way still having interaction with various other levels of mind who show up on your screen through your Internet Connection. A perfect example of life.
We can hang out in Facebook-ville or the local train station and we’re just as much alone and interacting with other minds around us; it’s just that at the train station those minds are within a physical body. But, we’re still just as much alone—and this is true even if we have our family in the mix of minds and bodies. We’re still one mind observing the rest and sometimes interacting with them (relating to them) so that we can determine who it is we are and what it is we believe. Our Inner truth, their inner truth and sorting it all out and that takes, if you don’t mind me saying, a good deal of humor. Human nature really is pretty comical if one gives it half a chance to show itself by standing back and watching instead of participating. And we can also laugh at our self in the process too.
It makes me think of times when there’d be someone at a party or social event that others would think of as a wall-flower and sure as rain someone would come along and try to drag the person into the heart of the activity only to hear them protest that they were really enjoying watching. Why does no one ever believe that this could be true? Anyway, these thoughts are the precursor to more serious consideration of the KUA of the day which is 61, “Inner Truth”—the gentle, wind above the joyous, lake. VISUAL: the wind blows over the lake and stirs the surface of the water.
A heart/mind has to be free of prejudices in order to be open to truth; therefore, dogma has no place in observing the truth in self or others. In fact, it’s a hindrance. Truth is not found by adopting certain beliefs from the local preacher or priest-like cult or by any type of social conditioning. It comes from the silent voice of the intuitive heart.
The problem with social conditioning and dogma is that a person is deeply influenced without knowing they are conditioned and dogmatized—it’s all very subtle but it does not miss the careful observer. There are those who find joy in the victimization of their religious figures and model themselves right along with that and let us not omit the new age white lighters who find the multi-million dollar bandwagon to jump on by repackaging the dogma into a new form. It’s all plainly there in front of the eyes of a careful observer with the open, intuitive, free of dogma and unprejudiced heart. And it’s really hard not to laugh about it all until one realizes that people are serious and have created their own specialized hell out of it—and this elicits a certain compassion but at the same time acceptance knowing that someone’s truth is what it is until it isn’t anymore. And some minds with bodies find joy and freedom in obeying those that they deem to be their superiors with their books of writing to stand behind.
It becomes a struggle some days to know if one should smile or cry at what is clearly observed without influence—just simple observation with unattached emotionalism that is always available but often ignored. It’s sometimes insidious but often obvious. Like, there it is—there. Obvious. And it isn’t difficult to see it and know it, for people will bend over backwards to pour out their inner truth to you without even trying to do so.
What the difference is between the truth attained via dogma and social conditioning is both vital and spiritual. The inner voice of one’s own spaciousness is serine and based on love—that love has nothing whatsoever to do with victimization or suffering and all to do with inner peace.
Heaven and hell are both seeds in the mind that are just waiting for you to think them into being and there are many of those seeds planted upon this earth—which ones will you nurture? Which ones are being nurtured by the other minds around you? Do you have a belief ABOUT truth (call this religion) or are you more interested in inner truth?
When anyone has had ENOUGH of the truth that’s been handed to you; when you begin to awaken from the spell of religious and social conditioning and when you can duck and dodge the new-age white-lighters and their multi-million dollar businesses made from repackaged christianity, you will enter an entirely new territory which in spiritual terms is known as “walking the path”.
What does that mean? It has to do with abandoning the prior conditioning and then questioning life. And this leads you within and helps you get in touch with your own inner truth. And that, ultimately, comes out in your attitude eventually whether you want it to or not.
BOTTOM LINE: Once you achieve a state of emptiness and openness, you will be open to receiving wisdom and knowledge from inner sources and the Universe Itself. It requires an open mind and that starts with releasing dogma and beliefs based on old paradigms and patriarchies.
Eventually, you will be able, then, to perceive the minds and inner truths of others.